220. It is a mitzvah to rejoice for seven days after the wedding — and these days are called “Shivas Ymai Hamishteh”. The chosson and kallah should wear Shabbos clothes and may not go to work1 during these days. These are days to give praise to Hashem for having given them the great merit of being married. Tachanun is not recited in Shul when a chosson is present.2

221. At Shacharis the day after the wedding, the chosson starts putting on a Tallis.3 On the first Friday night after the wedding, the kallah starts lighting two candles.

222. During the week of Sheva Berachos, the chosson and kallah should not walk in the street alone (even if together) but they should be accompanied by ashomer.4

223. There is no obligation to make a Sheva Berachos meal every day for seven days after the wedding5 — however, if during that time ten men (including the chosson) over the age of Bar Mitzvah sit down for a meal and there is a ponim chadashos — a “new face” present who wasn’t at the wedding, then the Sheva Berachos are recited.6 If no ponim chadashos is present, then one only recites the last of the Sheva Berachos, namely the blessing “Asher Boro” after the meal.7

224. The ponim chadashos needs to be someone who was not present at the wedding or any other festive meal with the chosson and kallah.8 On Shabbos and Yomtov a ponim chadashos is not required and Sheva Berachos may be recited even if no ponim chadashos is present.9

225. The seven days of celebration are calculated from the time they go under the chuppah, (and not from the time of the meal), so if for example the chuppah was on Monday before sunset, the last meal of Sheva Berachos would be on the next Sunday before sunset. (If they did not manage to bench before sunset the Sheva Berachos are not recited.)10

226. Thechosson and kallah must both eat bread and if they have not, then Sheva Berachos are not recited.11 Even if the chosson and kallah arrived in the middle of the meal, Sheva Berachos are recited.12

227. Men and women must sit separately at a Sheva Berachos. If the chosson andkallah are in separate rooms, the custom is that before the Sheva Berachos are recited the kallah comes to the room where the chosson is so that the Sheva Berachos are recited in her presence.13

228. Bread must be served however it is not necessary to serve meat, and a fish, vegetarian or milchig meal can be served.14

229. The chosson should try and say a Maamar and something in Nigleh at each of the Sheva Berachos.15

230. A minyan must be present to recite the Sheva Berachos and the chosson is included in the minyan.16 All the minyan should wash and eat bread in the first instance. However, bdieved as long as seven have washed and eaten bread, and the other three have eaten some fruit etc., then Sheva Berachos may be recited.17

231. At the end of the meal before benching two cups of wine are poured, the first for benching and the second for the Sheva Berachos.18

232. The one who leads the benching lifts the cup of wine and recites the zimun and says “Shehasimchah Bimono19 (even if no ponim chadashos is present.)20

233. After the leader has finished benching over the first cup of wine, the second cup is passed around and different people are honored with the recitation of the Sheva Berachos. There is a question in the Poskim regarding one who ate nothing at the meal whether they may recite one of the Sheva Berachos. The custom is that if they had some cake or fruit then they may do so.21

234. After the last blessing, the leader then takes the first cup and recites the berachoh Borei Pri Hagofen and drinks some of the wine. Then some wine from the second cup over which the Sheva Berachos was recited is poured into the first cup and then back again until the wines in the two cups are mixed, and then one cup is given to the chosson to drink from, and the other to the kallah.22

235. The custom is that the last Sheva Berachos should be held in 770 and if one is in a different location in the world then in a Yeshivah of Tomchei Tmimim, Beis Lubavitch, Chabad House etc.23

236. The chosson should read from the sefer “Sippurim Noraim” during these days.24

237. Thechosson and kallah should learn Torah together, thus joining the “Kol Chosson and Kol Kallah” with “Kol Torah”.25

238. During the days of Sheva Berachos, the chosson and kallah should give extra Tzedakah.26


239. The Rebbe was not in favor of going on a honeymoon.27