208. A wedding meal is prepared and this is a Seudas Mitzvah. Today it is customary that all the guests wash and sit down to eat and then the chosson and kallah enter amidst much dancing and music. The chosson sits at the top table and makes Hamotzi on a special large challah.

209. At the wedding meal there should be a proper Mechitzah dividing between the men and the women. 1

210. The band should play niggunei Chabad.2 It is customary to lift the chosson and kallah (either on a chair or a table) during the dancing.3

211. ATzedakah box should be placed on the tables at which the chosson and kallah are sitting.4

212. One should make a point of inviting poor people to come and eat at the wedding — and they too should be given the best food.5

213. At his daughter’s wedding, the Previous Rebbe himself went from table to table (with a napkin on his shoulder like a waiter) and he poured out a Lechaim to each person and gave them his blessings.6

214. The mitzvah is to rejoice with the chosson and kallah — and this should be done through the dancing, and the saying of Divrei Torah andchassidus and praise of the chosson and kallah and their families.7

215. The custom is to give gifts to the chosson and kallah.8

216. It is not our custom for the chosson or any other relatives to do a mitzvah Tantz with the kallah.9

217. At the end of the meal the kallah is brought nearer to the table where the Sheva Berachos are being recited, so she may hear the Sheva Berachos.10 Two cups are filled with wine. The person honored with benching uses the first cup and says the special Zimun which includes the words “Shehasimchah Bimono.” When he has finished benching (but before saying Borei Pri Hagofen), the second cup is used to pass around those honored with saying the Sheva Berachos. After the last berachoh, the person who benched then says the berachoh Borei Pri Hagofen on the wine and drinks some.11 He then pours some of the wine from the second cup (over which the Sheva Berachos has been said) into the first cup and then back and forth pouring between the cups to mix the wine. One cup is then passed to the chosson to drink from and the other one is passed to the kallah.

218. A person who needs to leave the hall early and can’t wait for the Sheva Berachos may bench with a mezuman at their own table and do not need to recite the Sheva Berachos separately.12 Needless to say that it is preferable that the guests remain for the Sheva Berachos. Much can be done by the hosts in order to facilitate benching to be held at a time that is reasonable for most of the guests.

219. The chosson and kallah are escorted home. See footnote as regards to their conduct in the case of a chuppas niddah.13